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Caffeine And Sex


Are you a big coffee drinker?  Do you feel like your sex drive is lacking?  Well maybe that lacking libido has to do with the fact you are drinking to many cups of Joe in the morning or through out the day.  This can be a real problem for sex drive.  Caffeine as you know is a stimulant and in most cases is safe but when the stimulant wares off so does you drive not only mentally but physically thus leading to lack of desire for sex.  Cutting back to one cup a day or even less can help build back sex drive.  That doesn’t mean having a sugary soda or energy drink instead.  Water is your best choice.  So if you want a better sex and better libido say no to that second cup of Joe.

Valentines Day Gifts Beware!


Beware of giving and receiving Valentines Day gifts from your lover.  This is a time when many spouse especially ones that might have any suspicions will be looking to find traces of gifts that are neither for them or from them.  This is a perfect time to get caught! So don’t get caught!  Make sure when getting your lover a gift for Valentines Day do it discreetly. Pay with cash and do not keep the receipt period! Destroy it.  If the store asks you any information regarding the purchase either make something up or refuse to give them any.  Do not take the gift home and try to hide it.  If your spouse finds it and doesn’t say anything to you about it because they don’t want to ruin the surprise then come Valentines Day they don’t receive it then you are pretty much screwed.  In some cases the store will hold it for you or deliver it for you and you can take it directly to your lover

Also, beware of showing something off you received this month stating you got it for yourself either it be jewelry, clothes, whatever don’t show off a gift your lover gave to you,  this is a sure fire way of getting caught .  To be on the safe side you and your lover can plan your own secret holiday. Preferably not in the month of February and celebrate and exchange gifts then  That way there is no chance of getting caught. Be smart don’t get caught.

Herbal Viagra?


Herbal Viagra is this a possibility for me you might be asking yourself especially if you are looking to carry on a new love affair?  There are many to choose from out there and its hard to tell which ones are safe and which ones aren”t. According to the Mayo Clinic many do contain substance tthat improve blood flow by relaxing the walls of blood vessels. However, none of them focuses specifically on blood vessels in the penis, as do Viagra and similar prescription drugs. As a result, these so-called herbal viagra supplements can cause dangerously low blood pressure in some men — particularly men who take nitrate medications for heart problems. It is a risk not worth taking.  If you are experiencing these problems then seek out your healthcare professional and discuss your concerns as well as other medications you might be taking as well.  You can accomplish this discreetly with your doctor or healthcare professional without jeopardizing your health or your affair.

All the Way


Sometimes with affair and online married dating there is an assumption that you when you meet for the first or for the fifth time you are excepted to go all the way.  This is not the case.  Of course there are a lot of meeting that go that way which is great if that is what is agreed a pone but in some  cases the first meeting might just be that a meeting to see if once you meet in person if there is any chemistry.  Just because you met on a married dating site and are meeting person doesn’t mean anyone is excepted to do anything.  Sometime is best just to meet and discuss with each other what each other is looking for and if each party is able or wanting to consent to that.

Also maybe meeting a couple of times ahead of actually going all the way not only build excitement but can also relax the both soon to be lovers, thus making their experience more enjoyable.  Each meeting can lead to a little more and more especially when it is something completely new to both parties. Remember you are in control of your own affair and what happens and doesn’t happen, never feel pressured into doing anything that you are not ok with.  Enjoy yourself and your new discreet encounter and let nature take its course either fast or slow.

Reach Out Of Your Circles


When participating in online married dating make sure you are reaching and participating far out of any social or business circles that could connect you to your private life.  This a safe guard to ensure you do not get caught.  You don’t want to try to have a lover who participates in the same routines as you and your spouse i.e. Saturdays at the same gym, going to the same restaurants and in some cases its best not to even go out in the same town as your fling may live or you.  Its best to reach far beyond that unless you plan on never being seen in public which is also an option for many  affair couples.  Sometimes having a lover who is at all connected to your private or social life in anyway can possibly cause a problem for either party.  That why it is always best to try to keep your private life completely separate than your affair life.  In the end it will help avoid any mishaps that might arise.  So make sure to reach far beyond your normal routines and find something new for both you and your fling.

Don’t Let Your Weight Decide Your Fate.


Many of us men and women in married relationship end up gaining weight.  Lets just say the old gray mare ain’t  what she use to be. But that old gray mare still wants to enjoy some action in the bedroom.  Sometime unfortunately our spouse don’t always understand the weight gain.  Either it be from children, age, stress at our jobs or just not the time we use to have for ourselves leads to lack of exercise and over eating.

Unfortunately this also leads to a lack in our sex drive and a lack of sexual desire and attraction in some cases from our significant others as well.  Maybe that doesn’t mean your marriage is doomed it just means that the sex isn’t there anymore.  That doesn’t mean that it cant be retrieved again!  Looking here at married dating and discreet encounters gives you the advantage of finding someone who is interested in you for you now not what you use to look like 20 years ago.  People come in all shapes and sizes and they are also desired in all shapes and sizes as well.  So don’t let your weight decide your sexual fate, find a fling today and fill your needs that your current relationship is not.

Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For A Second Date


When dealing with online married dating sites don’t be afraid to ask for a second date.  That doesn’t mean that you are looking for a continued relationship but it does mean that you have enjoyed that person and what they have to offer.  If it works for them and what the contingencies that were set forth in the first place than don’t be afraid to ask to meet again.  If you can continue to have an enjoyable affair together than why not with the same person.  Keep in mind that doesn’t mean they are exclusively having an affair with only you or vice versa.  You can keep having an exciting continued fling with someone as long as both parties are happy and willing to continue it.  At any point the other party feels they need to leave, no feelings should be hurt and remember what the affair was all about not leaving their current partner or spouse.  Just remember to have a good time and don’t let emotions drive your affair let your sex drive!

Don’t Look At The Bar Look Here!


Why go to the bar to find a sex partner or fling?  You are only setting yourself to get caught and maybe a lot of drama.  A one night stand with someone at a bar could lead to some big problems if you are married or in a relationship.  For one thing you never know what your going to get especially considering both parties have probably been drinking pretty heavily and your mind is pretty much turned off and your body is turned on.  Next thing you know you have a man or women in bed with you and you don’t even remember their name, how you got there and did you use any contraceptives?  Do you have an alibi to tell your spouse or significant other?  Oh and somewhere along the way you get this person your phone number and now they are blowing up your phone when your at home with your family.

This is not a good idea!  If you want to find a discreet encounter come here and look at our online married dating sites we have to offer.  No strings attached, no drama and everything can be arranged ahead of time so that there is no question of what your soon to be fling is wanting.  You can also find someone in the privacy of your own home, office or phone.  Chat and meet do what you want and go back to your private lives without the fear of getting caught!  So look around now find what your missing and stay out of the bar!

I Have A Girlfriend


I have a sweet sexy young girlfriend who is dying to meet an older man for a crazy fling.  She came to me and asked where she could meet an older man?  I told her about online dating.  She said she wasn’t really wanting a relationship or a lot of drama.  She was a little embarrassed when she said she would love to have an older married man to just have some kinky sex with and drive him wild.   She wasn’t looking for a younger guy or any drama just some fun.  She said having someone older she would feel even hotter and wanted than the guys she had been dating and the thrill of meeting an older married man to have some wild sex with was really what she wanted.  Knowing if he was married there would be no expectations of a relationship.  I told her about Ashley Madison and Discreet Encounters which actually caters to women.  I told her there were a ton of men out there looking for someone like her and that I was sure she would find her perfect lover.

Don’t Be Rude


When you are having an affair or fling don’t be disrespectful to your lover.  Don’t talk trash about there spouse or partner.  If they want to say something about them or their marriage that’s fine but prying into their business or family life is disrespectful and intrusive.  Be polite and show some manors.  Some people looking for discreet encounters don’t want to bring any of that to the table and that is their choice. This is  something that can be discussed early on.  Other people might lay everything on the line to let you know there situation.    Just because someone is looking to have an affair doesn’t mean they don’t love there current partner or spouse it just means they are not fulfilled completely and are looking to find that piece of the puzzle.  Whatever the case maybe showing respect will go a long way not only for women but for men too.

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