When you are having an affair or fling don’t be disrespectful to your lover.  Don’t talk trash about there spouse or partner.  If they want to say something about them or their marriage that’s fine but prying into their business or family life is disrespectful and intrusive.  Be polite and show some manors.  Some people looking for discreet encounters don’t want to bring any of that to the table and that is their choice. This is  something that can be discussed early on.  Other people might lay everything on the line to let you know there situation.    Just because someone is looking to have an affair doesn’t mean they don’t love there current partner or spouse it just means they are not fulfilled completely and are looking to find that piece of the puzzle.  Whatever the case maybe showing respect will go a long way not only for women but for men too.