Wanting to talk dirty to get things hot and horny before you meet or to see if that discreet encounter is going to be all what they said they are.  Try some sex texting.  If you can’t write a couple of nasty text how are you going to be able to perform the dirty deeds.  Texting adds some real excitement to your affair while keeping it spicy.  Sexting is a fun and pretty harmless way to get an affair started.  Just be safe and make sure what you write on your phone you delete after every message you definitely don’t want your spouse to snoop around on your phone and find something they shouldn’t.  Enjoy yourself but don’t get caught!